People who get angry at asexuals who are attractive because they can’t have sex with them are ridiculous.

You don’t get angry at art galleries for displaying Renaissance art but saying you aren’t allowed to touch it. No, because you respect the fact that they are precious.

People are precious, why can’t you afford them the same respect?


just read this godammit!!!

why can’t i fuck the Renaissance art???

buddy, listen, they don’t even let me fuck the art.




Can I just say, uh, I’m pretty sure noticing you’re asexual is harder than noticing you’re gay, straight, pan or otherwise. Like, I just read someone’s desciption of hitting puberty and, like, there’s nothing like that. There’s no sudden ‘boob’ moment, no sudden ‘fuck, I’d fuck that’ moment, not sudden anything. You just, like, plod on through life as usual going ‘oooh, that’s pretty, I’d like that hair’ or ‘oooooh, they’re nice, I’d like to be close to them’ but there’s no like, ‘oh, someone would want to fuck that but I don’t’, you know? You just- you don’t notice, you don’t realise everyone else has ‘had a moment’ but you haven’t, you just- keep going as you always have.

And then, much much later, you start to wonder why people are getting so caught up in drama for romance or sex, like, why bother? It’s not worth it, they’re not worth it, why are you doing stupid things for something that’s so- and then you wonder if there’s something wrong with you, start mentally over compensating. Like ‘uh, okay, um, who should I date? Who can I stand to date? Who could I stand to fuck?’ like- it’s not, it’s not something you want, but you want to fit in, to be normal.

Sometimes you don’t even know that you’re doing it.

Sometimes you don’t even know asexual’s a thing.

I dunno, I guess, I just feel like, uh, people should understand more?

idk sorry thank you for listening to me

Thank you for perfectly describing it.





I just read this super sad post about this girl who’s asexual and married and everyone is basically telling her that she doesn’t deserve her husband/she’s just a prude/she should just do it anyway.
So I want to tell you all right now that if people tell you this, or if they tell you you’ll never have a relationship, it is BULLSHIT.
My husband is asexual and I’m not. He’s sex repulsed, we don’t have sex, we never have.
And it doesn’t matter to me. You know what does? He does. His mental health and wellbeing matter to me. Because he is my best friend and he’s one of the smartest, kindest, funniest people I’ve ever met. And he’s had people tel him that he’s broken and it makes me SO ANGRY because they are WRONG.
Being different doesnt mean you’re broken.
If you don’t like sex/don’t want it/etc. Do not let anyone tell you that you’re inferior because you’re not.
Do not let anyone convice you that you’ll never have a relationship because they’re wrong(if you want one).
You are not broken, and it will be okay.

This made me feel really good. Remember this, for all my ace spectrum friends out there

#it’s really reassuring to hear from the partner #the one who’s not ace #but is totally cool with having no sex #loves her husband anyway #is in a stable and happy relationship #it’s such a relief when you discover that asexuality is a thing #that you’re okay #but then you start to wonder if it means your only chance at not ending up alone is finding someone else who’s also ace #but no #turns out it’s not #that’s really good to hear #so #thanks #so ace #so space

I hope you don’t mind me reblogging your tags but these are my feelings EXACTLY

I’m always a little nervous that I’m not “good enough” for a “real relationship” because sex isn’t on the table. So yeah, these stories are reassuring

The amount of pressure from society to have sex is incredible. We’re told it’s linked to relationship health and if you’re not willing to do every damn thing you’re labeled a prude. It’s incredibly disheartening, especially considering how one’s libido can change over the years even if you’re not ace. Nice to see a supportive piece from a partner.



I just… wanna remind people that asexuality was classed as a mental disorder by the DSM all the way up until 2013…. Because I feel like people don’t know this or like to ignore it because it doesn’t fit into their “asexual people don’t face discrimination” rhetoric.

Asexuality was only removed from the DSM in 2013. Please, know this and remember it.

Read this here thing if you want to know more about this. But, important to note: the diagnosis is still “hypoactive sexual desire disorder” unless you self-identify as asexual. Meaning you have to KNOW you’re asexual if you don’t want to get treated for a mental disorder.


I just… wanna remind people that asexuality was classed as a mental disorder by the DSM all the way up until 2013…. Because I feel like people don’t know this or like to ignore it because it doesn’t fit into their “asexual people don’t face discrimination” rhetoric.

Asexuality was only removed from the DSM in 2013. Please, know this and remember it.







the term “aro-ace” is especially lovely because it also sounds like “arrow ace.” are you aromantic and asexual or are you an incredibly skilled and deadly archer. surprise, you’re both


#also Katniss

Let’s not forget the original arrow ace: 



im proud of you my children

Archie Comic Reveals Jughead Is Asexual


“Crown-wearing Archie Comics character Jughead Jones has traditionally been more into burgers than romance, and a new comic is about to casually reveal that he is, in fact, asexual. In other words, he’s a person who isn’t sexually attracted to other people — a kind of sexual identity that’s rarely depicted in popular fiction.

But when writer Chip Zdarsky and artist Erica Henderson were tasked with helping Archie’s companywide reboot of its classic characters, they opted to subtly take a stand and add a new facet to a long-established property. The revelation happens in Jughead No. 4, which hits stands and digital outlets on Wednesday.”

Archie Comic Reveals Jughead Is Asexual



“Reports from French missionaries to Siam and Indochina in the seventeenth century are sometimes barely distinguishable from the reports sent by agents of Colbert’s East India company, but in the course of the rites controversy, the French Jesuits in China produced a vast literature to communicate to Europe their idealized image of China.”

…this game is way less fun when you’re in grad school.

Nearest book to me is the one I’m currently reading on my kindle…

“Through the spinal column of the neck was the only way to put them down permanently and quickly.”

…surprisingly apt? ;D

Haven’t done this in a while, but was browsing my books tag and…

“Whether it was true that mass murderers started out as agreeable little boys, the way those TV tabloid interviews with neighbors tended to indicate.”

…I got nothing.  XD

Tbh I’m here for all sex-repulsed people



Whether ace or not, that shit can be really confusing and hurtful and difficult.

  • Like… I’m here for the ace/arc people who have a sex drive and get so confused because their body wants something but their brain doesn’t.
  • I’m here for the ace/arc people who don’t like to see genitals/porn/any sexual content but are bombarded with it all the time every day because our society is so obsessed with it.
  • I’m here for all the ace/arc folks that are fine with seeing sexual content or masturbating, and having nobody understand why they don’t want sex, as though having sex with somebody else and masturbation are the same thing.
  • I’m here for the ace/arc people who are so repulsed by genitals they can’t even look at their own body.
  • I’m here for the ace/arc folks who have always been that way, and I’m here for those people who are pretty new to this.
  • I’m here for the ace/arc people who are fine with the way they are, and the people who are neutral about it, and the people who hate it.
  • I’m here for the ace/arc people who are in relationships with people who want sex and all the confusing and hurt that can bring.
  • I’m here for the ace/arc people who want relationships but feel like they’re unlovable because they can’t give a partner what they want/need.
  • I’m here for the ace/arc people who want to have sex for the feeling or for the intimacy or for whatever reason, but just can’t bring themselves to do it and spend so much time stuck in that limbo.
  • I’m here for the ace/arc people who think they want something, then feel dirty and broken and upset and regretful afterwards.
  • I’m here for all of you, from those who aren’t really comfortable with having sex, to those who have anxiety/panic attacks over it and all in between.

It can be confusing and scary and hurtful as shit. It’s hard to navigate even your own body and your own comfort zones, let alone when you’re engaging with somebody else. I’m here for you all because somebody needs to be. …Because I need somebody to be.

Post!! for us!!!