Bring consent out of the bedroom. I think part of the reason we have trouble drawing the line “it’s not okay to force someone into sexual activity” is that in many ways, forcing people to do things is part of our culture in general. Cut that shit out of your life. If someone doesn’t want to go to a party, try a new food, get up and dance, make small talk at the lunchtable—that’s their right. Stop the “aww c’mon” and “just this once” and the games where you playfully force someone to play along. Accept that no means no—all the time.
This article changed my fucking life. I’m so glad people are still reading it.
People are always so damned shocked that I say no and don’t change my mind when they plead and coax, even when it’s something small like ‘hey grab some ice cream with us’ or ‘did you see that new embarrassing cringe viral video?’