Updating the to-do list

So, thanks to a really hectic week and a minor meltdown, I didn’t get as much done as I wanted and managed to add several new things to the pile, so let’s try this again…

  • Work Stuff
    • Read the next four chapters of the textbook so you’re actually ready to teach them. 
    • Come up with lesson plan ideas for the next week of class.
    • Fix the damned schedule you fucked up writing and send it to the class. 
      • (Seriously, how the fuck did I do that?  I CHECKED THE THING TEN TIMES.  *headdesk*)
    • Post the mini-lesson rubric.
    • Get an attendance spreadsheet together.
  • School stuff
    • Respond to advisor’s email.
    • Stat class
      • Teach yourself how to do factor analysis.
      • Do the stats analysis for your paper.
      • Write paper.
      • Write presentation.
      • Tell prof to go screw herself.  OK, NOT REALLY, BUT AT LEAST I GOT TO RANT TO THE PROGRAM DIRECTOR ABOUT HER LAST NIGHT AND A I FEEL A BIT BETTER NOW.
    • Lit Review Class from last summer session
      • Finish first section.
      • Write second section.
    • QP stuff
      • Register for QP class for the fall
      • Write QP abstract and send to advisor.
      • Once approved, write QPP.
      • Once approved, write QP.
    • Independent study
      • Register for class for the fall
      • Read “Thinking Fast and Slow”
      • Write papers.
  • Adulting Stuff
    • Email shoe company to let them know what you want to do about the shoes.
    • Send 2015 tax info to other insurance.
    • Open your fucking mail.  It’s piling up.
    • The pile ‘o’ clothes is reaching scary heights, again.  PUT IT AWAY, ALREADY.
  • Scarves
    • Jason’s
    • Andrew’s
    • Adam’s
    • Terrence’s
    • Joe’s
    • Mark’s
  • Fun stuff
    • Write story for PR Femslash Ficathon.
    • Answer trailing writing meme asks.
    • Check on your garden.
    • Make plans with dad and with Karen to see ST.
    • Back up your tumblr to a WordPress
    • Get your queue sorted, already.  It’s a mess.
      • …it’s a bit pathetic that those last two legitimately fall under the ‘fun’ category.  It’s a bit pathetic that half the time these days ‘fun’ = ‘things that might bright my stress level down just a hair’ instead of things that are actually fun.  😛


italics – the things I absolutely have to get done this weekend 

…yeah, this weekend is going to SUCK.  *headdesk*

Things I never knew about depression until I finally had a doctor explain the disease to me

academicfeminist:

Depression can manifest as irrational anger.

My complete and total inability to keep anything clean or tidy for any amount of time is a symptom of my depression. I may never be able to do this. It’s important that I remember that and forgive myself when I clean something out (like my car) and it ends up trashed within a week.

Depression IS A DISABILITY. Requiring accommodations is okay.

Medications don’t make you better, they don’t cure your depression. They serve as an aid. Their purpose is to help you get to everyone else’s minimal level of functioning.

Depression can cycle through periods of inactivity. This doesn’t mean it’s gone away.

The reason I don’t feel like other people understand me is because … well … other people DON’T understand me. They can’t. They don’t have my disability.

Paranoia is par for the course.

Depression can and will interfere with your physical mobility. Forgive yourself when you can’t physically do something.

It’s entirely possible that I may never be able to live by myself. I can’t take care of myself. I need help to do it. And that’s okay.

A Crash Course on Asexuality, for Non-Aces

guardiandae:

What is Asexuality?

Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. That’s it.

Okay so aces can’t have sex or anything to do with sex?

Nope, that’s not what I said.

Sexual behavior does not determine sexual orientation or lack thereof.

Asexuals can:

– Have a sex drive (libido)

– Masturbate

– Watch porn

– Have dirty minds

– Bake cookies

– Have sex

– Have children

– Get married

– Play sports

– Fall in love

…Or they can have zero interest in any of these things, and none of this has anything to do with their status of being asexual.

Wait, if they can have sex then how are they asexual?!

Asexuals can have sex for lots of reasons. Some want to be close to their partner, or want to have kids, some don’t know they are asexual and have sex just because they think that’s what everyone is supposed to do, some get pressured into sex, some have a libido and have sex purely as a way to get off, but still don’t feel any sexual attraction. Some never have sex, never masturbate, and never understand the point of it.

Every asexual experience is different. Aces can range from sex-repulsed, to completely indifferent, to very sex positive! What all aces have in common is that they don’t feel sexual attraction, or very rarely ever feel sexual attraction.

How do you know if you’ve felt sexual attraction or not?

For some, there is never any doubt they are asexual. For others, sexual attraction can get confused with platonic, aesthetic, romantic, or even sensual attraction. Ultimately, it comes down to the individual to decide whether the asexual label suits them or not.

(Note: Platonic attraction is basically wanting to be friends with someone, Aesthetic attraction is finding someone beautiful (not necessarily ‘standard’ beauty, whatever is beautiful to you), Romantic is wanting to date someone and that can mean different things to different people, Sensual is wanting to have non-sexual contact with someone like kissing, touching, cuddling, and Sexual attraction is wanting to have sexual contact with someone.)

I don’t understand any of this!

It is absolutely okay to not understand asexuality! Trust me, asexuals don’t understand non-aces either. Just remember that even if it’s hard for you to understand, that doesn’t mean it isn’t real! (I don’t understand calculus, but it’s still real!)

How can I be a good ally?

– Educate yourself, read more about it, ask an ace if it’s okay to ask them questions! Odds are, you probably already know a bunch of people who are asexual even if you think you don’t.

– If you have asexual friends, ask them what they are comfortable with in regards to even talking and joking about sex, and then do your best to respect that. Some have dirtier minds than anybody, some are indifferent either way, but others might not be comfortable around any kind of sex talk. Just ask!

– Don’t make acephobic comments. Stuff like, “but everybody wants sex, it’s just natural”, “are you even human?”, “have you seen a doctor/therapist?”, “you’ll change your mind when you meet the right person”, “you’re too young to know”, “you just want attention”, “you must think you’re better than everyone else”, “you can’t be asexual because (I think I know your life better than you)”, “you’re just a prude/frigid/naive”, “you’re never going to have a happy relationship”, “if you don’t have sex with your partner, you don’t really love them”, “how do you know if you’ve never tried it?”, “asexual? so you think you’re a plant/sponge?”, “asexuality isn’t real”, “acephobia isn’t real”… etc and so on, are dehumanizing and just plain ignorant, even if you think you mean well. If you wouldn’t want someone saying that to you, don’t say it to us!

– Don’t erase us. Don’t invalidate us. It’s that simple. Even if you can’t understand asexuality, it’s 100% okay to say, “I don’t understand your experience, but I still support you.”

We aren’t weird, we aren’t trying to be special. Asexuality has always existed, it isn’t new, but lately we’re finally able to say, “Hey, by the way, we exist” and have pride in ourselves. All you need to do is say, “Okay, cool.” Respect it, and carry on. That’s it.

Thank you!

jainaskywalkers:

this story happened a long time ago in a galaxy far, far away. it is already over. nothing can be done to change it. 

p0tbarbie:

p0tbarbie:

every single negative stereotype about women was dreamt up by men who were projecting. fight me about it.

“women can’t drive”

It is so well known that women are better and safer drivers than men that OUR CAR INSURANCE RATES ARE LOWER. Women get into fewer accidents, get fewer DUIs, and receive fewer speeding tickets than men.

“women never shut up”

Several scientific studies have shown that not only do men talk more than women, they also think that women have been talking for much longer than they actually have. Men interrupt and talk over women, dominate conversations, and still think women talk too much.

“women are shallow”

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“my wife is my ball and chain lmao”

Multiple studies have shown that marriage between men and women:
Increases male lifespan, decreases female lifespan
Decreases male depression rates, increases female depression rates
Decreases male stress levels, increases female stress levels
Increases male health and happiness, decreases female health and happiness
Increases a man’s chance of getting a raise or promotion, decreases a woman’s chances of getting a raise or promotion

“women are too emotional”

Men love to say this about women after hurting them, in order to shift the blame and dismiss their feelings in one go. In reality, women are taught to hold our tongues and control ourselves quite literally from birth. We’re taught to put men’s needs and wants ahead of our own emotions regardless of the personal cost. Men are taught to do more or less whatever the fuck they want to women. Men take their emotions out on women while women are expected to shove theirs down.

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I could go on and on but I don’t really think I need to.